“A Myth, A Question, or the Truth?”
I read something that left me with questions: Wait, is that really true? Does this actually happen? Isn’t it wrong?
The phrase that got me thinking was:
“An educated man can adjust to married life with an illiterate woman, but an educated woman will never adjust to a man who is poor or illiterate.”
For a moment, my mind went blank. It screamed truth for some reason, yet I couldn’t bring myself to fully believe it.
Women often have high hopes for their future life partners. They expect them to be extra caring, extra attentive, extra possessive — just extra in every way. But what does this extra even mean? Compared to whom? To themselves, maybe? Does this mean they always expect more from their partners — whether in money, education, or emotions? Is that really true?
From a male perspective, the expectations don’t seem as high. Of course, this isn’t universal, but in comparison, their demands are often simpler. Agree?
The reality of what actually happens is a mystery with countless answers.
I asked my colleagues and family members about this, and the responses were diverse. Let me give you a glimpse into the male and female perspectives.
For men, the first thing they mentioned was male dominance — the idea that men always want to hold power. Some said that if a woman holds a higher position than them, they wouldn’t even pursue a relationship with her, fearing unnecessary quarrels. Others believed that women always expect their partners to be superior in every way, whereas men don’t have such expectations.
For women, the response was different. Many said it’s not their mindset but society’s. They don’t intentionally think this way, but when a woman is the primary earner, society leaves no chance to taunt the man for not working. Some women simply said, “Why should we settle for less? We worked hard to reach this position, so why compromise?” Others believed that if a man is willing to be with a woman of lower status, there must be a reason — “Maybe she’s very beautiful”, “He was forced into the marriage”, or “He just wants to be dominant.”
So far, I’ve spoken from both sides. Now, here’s my personal take.
The expectations we have in a partner were never really about money or education. They were always about basic decency. But in today’s world, those basics are labeled as expectations.
A woman leaves behind everything to be with you. Doesn’t she deserve a little extra care and effort? These aren’t expectations — they are basics. If you love her, cherish her. Make her feel lucky to have you, and she will drop the facade she wears outside. She will be honest with you.
So, to all the men who claim women have high expectations — no, they’re simply asking for the basics. You’re the one calling them expectations.
I’ve written these opinions exactly as they were because I want to know — what do you think? Is this mindset healthy?
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